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Post by Tina Hutchence on Aug 15, 2005 20:38:43 GMT
Thank you Seline, Yes, we did make peace before Kell passed on. We had a very beautiful, however tearful, exchange.
I know that mIchael's passing shortened Dad's life measurably, but he felt that he would see Michael and in my belief he has.
T.
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Post by grrlonfire on Aug 15, 2005 20:41:41 GMT
I am a new member to this site and just can't help my heart going out to you Tina, and your Mom and everyone...i have lost a family member in a sudden way someone I idolized and can't imagine how you got through that hazy insanity...I remember well the turmoil (it was an aneurism) and the shock is just horrible to deal with. I don't know who this Colin DIamond person is but I hope he gets justice served him double someday.
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Post by Tina Hutchence on Aug 16, 2005 2:15:48 GMT
I believe you either get it in this life or the next - someone is keeping score.
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Post by Aussie on Aug 16, 2005 2:30:02 GMT
Amen to that Tina!
Aussie
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Post by eyevision on Aug 16, 2005 3:48:55 GMT
Tina,
I discovered your site last week after searching for Michael's name while watching Rockstar. Your book is extremely compelling and the story is heartbreaking. His was an enormous loss. I was never a fan of Michael's per se growing up, but I did love INXS' music. Your brother was supremely talented and I was surprised at how sad his loss made me eight years ago. The show has brought all of that up again, and it has once again taken me by surprise.
The story you tell is frustrating, infuriating and heartbreaking all at the same time. I wish there was some way he could have been saved and allowed to start a new life with his daughter. I don't know why watching the show has affected me so, as I am jointly delighted by the idea of INXS living on, yet saddened by the shoes that can never be filled. It will not be the same.
As infuriating as your account of her behavior was, I find myself feeling sorry for Paula as well. She certainly made a complete drama and mess of her life, and she seemed to take Michael down with her. Why didn't she see that he was in trouble? And what good did she think would come from all of the manipulation and game playing? Still, after Michael's death, she seemed to completely come apart. Pictures of her from the period just before her own death show nothing but defeat and devastation. A waste all around. Knowing the history behind the headlines, I keep thinking the same thing over and over: I hope there is more than just this life, so people who were as clearly in pain as Michael, and after his death, Paula, can finally find some peace.
I am curious and concerned about Tiger's repeated seizures. Was the cause ever determined? Do they persist to this day? And how is Michele doing? She must have been devastated knowing she didn't make it to the hotel in time to save him from himself.
I cannot wait to finish your book. When will the next chapter be posted?
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Post by seline63 on Aug 16, 2005 5:13:24 GMT
Tina, what you said in your post above about Kell seeing Michael made me tear up again. I just re-read your book recently, and I know this was in chapter 13, I believe and not 14, but it reminds me of what you just said above. It is when Andrew came up to you and your mother, and said Michael would not be alone on the other side. Referring to his own mother Jill. You said this gave you some relief from the pain. I have read this twice now, and I tear up from the emotion you captured in that moment. I didn't know Michael, but from what I have come to know in your book etc., he never liked to be alone and I'm so glad he isn't alone on the other side either. He has the souls of his father and his best friend's mother to keep him company and that is a good thing...RIP Michael...
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Post by grrlonfire on Aug 17, 2005 20:54:36 GMT
Nicely put Seline and I agree with what eyevision sad about it all being so frustrating and heartbreaking...and I cried while reading the book too. The thing is to ask all the questions now is futile...I wondred why Paula didn't just pick up the baby and put them on a plane in the first place if she cared about how Michale felt. But looking at it from a distance we can see now that all of them were so filled with pain and all the manipulations that no one could see what was happening - least of all through all the drugs...it is sad that no one could really help at that point.
Tina there is definitely peace on the other side and I believe that Michael and Kell are together enjoying good times - there is no question in my mind. You are a Godsend to the family and to Tiger that you are willing to go the distance to provide a happy, healthy lasting memory of Michael for her.
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Post by Tina Hutchence on Aug 18, 2005 21:00:49 GMT
Hi Eyevision, and welcome to our site. Well you raise some interesting and obvious insite. I don't think a person(ie Paula) can focus on another person when they are in trouble themselves. Paula was not well - she was a borderline personality and as such moved through life creating havoc under the guise of the image of a normal, interesting person. Michael was completely fooled. Though, Bob knew as he had been with her so long, and had taken her to several therapists.
Regarding Tiger's seizures -another example of not thinking about another person even a loved one. They were obviously due to ingesting breastmilk laced w/who knows what?? From Kell's mouth, "When I was trying to talk to her about the funeral, she was throwing back champagne and POPPING PILLS while breastfeeding" - Even when Paula was admitted to the Priory - a rehab in London, her doctor allowed her to have Tiger stay with her at night!! Can you imagine that being allowed of any regular person??
Tina
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Post by grrlonfire on Aug 19, 2005 17:10:22 GMT
Wow, Tina that is just the most infuriating thing I’ve heard…this is behavior coming from a woman who wrote books on raising children for heaven’s sakes!! I’ve never read them but I’ll bet there wasn’t a chapter on methods to deliver drugs to infants. Ughhh. Sorry, but there are two things I just cannot stomach in this world, cruelty to animals and abuse of children. I know she was in a horrific state of mind at the time and completely out of control but, oh I just have to let it go.
I’m glad to know that Tiger is well now. I know that a lot of people sympathize with Paula but…Yeah, Bob should have had a clue from the get go – that hideous blood red wedding gown she wore for their wedding should have been clue 1 and then she put a picture of another man on the refrigerator with twinkling lights for 12 years would definitely qualify as clue 2 – now if that isn’t weird and obsessive. Didn’t she nab Bob with a child? From what I remember they weren’t married until after their first came along and then Bob relented to a marriage. Something tells me that is just what Paula was working on with Michael by using Tiger in the same manner to try and draw him into that marriage she so desperately wanted…I know I’m only speculating and probably shouldn’t – but I think it makes sense. It is just a shame that the pressure it all put on him was so strong as to push anyone over the edge. I don’t know if I would say Paula consciously planned these things or not but I think it’s just the way she was. I guess it’s just too bad they ever met in the first place.
He should have stayed in Lake Como and married a nice Italian girl….
“The mind in its own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell and a hell of heaven”.
John Milton, Paradise Lost (1667)
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Post by grrlonfire on Aug 19, 2005 19:18:59 GMT
I'm sorry - I don't mean to sound mean about it but it is still somewhat painful to think about even after all these years...I am one of those people who can remember where I was at the moment I heard about his death and how I felt the loss for days afterward. I hope that for you Tina, who suffered so much from this painful loss, I hope you can find comfort that he still has fans out there and that we still care. That is why I'm glad that there is a way for us to - rather than rehash things we can't change - to put forward a positive memorial for his daughter - and that's because of you Tina. Your tireless effort to keep this forum going is a testament to you being a great big sister to Michael and a loving caring aunt to Tiger. I hope that the fund is successful and you can generate great things with it. God Bless You!
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Post by Tina Hutchence on Aug 19, 2005 19:34:42 GMT
Well our first and foremost goal is to help talented, disadvantaged teens...Michael would like that as he knew all too well how lucky he was and how things fell into place for him and the band.
Paula was not well., she couldn't help that. She had a condition and it should have been dealt with instead of ignoring it. It just made it harder on her and the people surrounding her.
It has left Tiger without her mother or her father and it is very sad, but I hope Bob will allow me to generate good things from this as she grows and wants to know.
Tina
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Post by amy on Aug 21, 2005 10:24:57 GMT
can someone give me online link of Tina Hutchence's book abt Michael
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Post by Trixiiy on Aug 21, 2005 17:03:23 GMT
Hi amy, welcome to the board!! Here the links: www.michaelhutchenceinfo.com then left down click on Just a Man then under the 2 pics there you find the several chapters. Just click onto the chapter you wanna read. mL Trixiiy
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Post by hutch4eva on Aug 29, 2005 16:57:12 GMT
Tina I am so saddened and angered by the treatment your family received by that mobster CD and his henchmen. It was the most difficult time one could experience and to have your love one tossed about so to speak and basically being cast as a liar (ownership of the villa, etc...) even after death, is painful. How dare they?! I'm so glad that feelings were mended before Kell passed away. You are a family first and foremost and the evil press doesn't care if you're all left in pieces. I'm just happy that you prevailed. Goes to show, all you have in the end is Family. Michael was very blessed to have you all in his corner, even now.
Sonya xoxo
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